This Covenant of Love
On October 28, 1995 I stood in front of family and friends and said, “I do” to my wife, Karen.
A few months later for her birthday I wrote her a poem entitled, “The Covenant of Love.” I want to share that with you.
The Covenant of Love
A commitment of faith is what I make to you.
This faith will be shown by what I do.
The life I live, will no longer be mine.
Together we’ll share the love of a lifetime.
A promise of hope is what we’ll share.
For our future is held by a God who cares.
Our hope is not based on our own ability.
But on Christ alone who is our stability.
A covenant of love is what I make to you.
Giving myself to what Christ holds true.
I give a love that Christ first gave to me.
So you can become all that God intends you to be.
This covenant of love is the greatest of these.
So take my hand and walk this path with me.
Hand in Hand and Heart to Heart.
What God has bound together, no man can tear apart.
Love Produces Hope
Celebrating 22 years of marriage this past weekend gave Karen and I some moments to reflect on God’s faithfulness through many of the valleys and mountaintop experiences of our marriage. We have definitely had our share of challenges.
In scripture men are told to love our wives as Christ loved the church. (Ephesians 5:25-33). I am still grasping and wrestling with this profound mystery even after 22 years of marriage. For many men, once we say “I do” we feel the conquering is over (winning over her heart). The truth is, the battle and the conquering has just begun. There are many battles yet to be fought for the hearts of our wives, our families and our children. Keep “storming those beaches” in love for the hearts of our spouses. To risk it all, as Christ did, is not just wishful thinking and prayers …it should be the demand we place on our own hearts.
At times the valleys of marriage might seem to occur more than the mountaintop experiences. Don’t lose sight that God is producing things in our lives: “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 And hope does not put us to shame…” (Romans 5:3-5) and “Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:4).
This is why love needs to be a covenant bound in the hope found in the shed blood of Christ and not in the hope I often misplace in my own flesh and feelings. He WILL not fail despite my failings.
Marriage is a Covenant
I hope I am living up to my promise of loving my wife in such a way that she is becoming the woman God is calling her to be. Proverbs 31:28-29, “Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”
Marriage just isn’t something we do when we are in love. It is a vow. A lifelong commitment. A covenant. It is a love worth fighting for and dying for.
To my wife of 22 years…Happy Anniversary, Karen. I love doing life with you.